Inspired by The Gift of Sensitivity

Dear reader, the goal of my newsletter is to uphold your right to be informed and to promote science. My perspective is neither pessimistic nor optimistic; I believe we can navigate any crisis together. Panic and rash actions are not effective in the long term; we need more. Developing a new resource—emotional capital—that fosters critical thinking and enables social change is a promising idea, which we explore here and you are warmly invited.

We can either empower individuals or unintentionally create a system that limits true independence, causing us to blame others whenever we face difficulties.

Are we striking the right balance between offering support and fostering independence, or are we doing too much—or too little?

These questions are central to discussions of ethical and social responsibility.

What is emotional vulnerability?

Emotional vulnerability is a complex idea that transcends socioeconomic status, gender, age, and culture. It shows that anyone can connect with their emotions and experience those that are uncomfortable for them.

We should remember that emotional control, masking, and disconnections executed for long periods of time cause emotionally rigid personalities. These people can not easily connect with themselves or others and support genuine relationships. Therefore, disconnections from emotions are considered not good or beneficial for anyone around us.

Therefore, it must become a common understanding that we could become vulnerable and need time for processing. I believe that time for inner work must be socially accepted, encouraged, and even remunerated so that people become hunters for emotional self-care.

It may be that social acceptance of emotional vulnerability should be upheld and included in the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights. It could sound like an article:

“Everyone has the right for vulnerability following standard emotional processing and equal pay for it, which is very beneficial for adequate health and well-being of himself and his family and his community around.”

However, emotional disbalance is not better and requires emotional processing, which must be embedded in any culture. Remaining vulnerable for too long can disempower you, make you dependent, and lead to self-judgment. There is nothing wrong with feeling vulnerable and understanding the truth about yourself, as long as it doesn’t create a victim mindset that is weak and powerless.

The best thing we could do for each other is take personal responsibility and care for our emotional health. In this case, you can see the world directly without clouds of emotional distractions.

When society rejects public emotional outbursts, valuable reminders may exist.

The first reminder is about compassion

It refers to the fact that emotional publicity usually results in people feeling sorry and pitiful toward others, precisely the opposite of what a person in an emotional abyss needs.

This is because we forget the true meaning of compassion, lack knowledge about compassion, and tend to judge instead of being compassionate.

Pity is when we see someone as inferior and try to help them be better because we feel sorry for who they are.

“Do-goodery” is not so good at all.

Sometimes, remembering who we are is painful but needed for crucial breakthroughs.

Imagine the whole universe working to unleash your potential. Yet, suddenly, your Mom pays your rent check (and you are in your 35th), your best friend works as a cry pillow, or your girlfriend assures you the world is full of toxic people where you have two wings behind, and you do nothing again. And again.

We must not forget that compassion has nothing to do with pity for somebody, feeling that somebody has no strength to deal with the situation.

This way, we put ourselves in a patronizing or savior position (and will eventually deal with the consequences of it in our own lives).

It took courage to be humble in the face of life forces and believe everyone is appropriately equipped to deal with any situation.

If you want to give a hand, offer it, but with a belief in the person, an inner wish for them to become free, and a sincere belief that they could take a gift from the situation.

Such internal support must be applied first to ourselves, starting with permission for emotional release.

The second reminder: nobody but us is responsible for our inner emotional state

It is about public unacceptance of emotional exposure and massive emotional outbursts.

You are probably very familiar with situations when we say, “She makes me crazy,” “He is impossible to stay with,” or “They are such and such.” These conversations spiral us down.

If you think of blaming others in an emotionally charged moment, this is the most appropriate moment to put yourself first because our state is more important than how others are.

Such thoughts are a great reminder that we need to slow down and get work done, starting with the question, “What do I feel when he is impossible or she is behaving as crazy.”

It is the right moment to put yourself on a pedestal and stop hiding in thoughts about others. This is a moment to face the truth of what is happening inside you.

This work is sacred, inner, intimate, and social unacceptance of strong emotional releases reminds us that we can not be intimate with everybody else around us.

The last reminder is that energy connects us all, and emotional arousals influence the energy field

We all, collectively, each at a personal level, are responsible for the emotional atmosphere around us. It is not about you being accepted only when you feel good. Acceptance should come for vulnerable moments, too.

The raw truth is that our ultimate responsibility works for our benefit and supports the joint energy field without attempting to lean on anybody with a total capacity.

We all need personal time during challenging moments. Yet, we all can handle them.

This means we have the right to be vulnerable, but with any right comes an obligation.

This obligation involves overcoming vulnerability, becoming more resistant, and empowering yourself by using vulnerable moments as a reference point for inner development.

In this way, vulnerability becomes a catalyst for developing the ability to live independently, becoming strong enough to support those still vulnerable around us.

The priority is transforming vulnerability, as it is not a long-term strategy and may disempower you if relied upon for too long. To start, we need to know how to process our emotions, and this is not something delivered during school classes.

That’s all for today.

We’ll talk again in two weeks.

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